Life is filled with many many crossroads, points where you have to decide where you want to go, which path you want to take. Some are easy to choose from, while others really make you take a moment, look at the possibilities and consequences of taking this certain path, and finally deciding. The rule is, you can never go back. You can only pass that crossroad once, and never again. Once you make your choice on which road to take, you bid your final farewell to the other road and continue your journey. Unlike what others may say, we don’t waste time, time wastes us. A time that has passed can never be rewind. So, you have to be really sure that you’re making the right decision, whatever your basis of the definition of “right” is.
To make the right choices, you have to envision what you want, where you want to be, why you want that, and how you’re going to make all that happen. “How am I going to do that?” you may ask. Well, you have to know yourself well. You have to know what your good at, what you need improvement in, what your interests are, and the like. First, you have to find yourself, realize who you are. We, human beings, all have our own strengths and weaknesses, admit it or not. No one is good at everything, even though some people may seem that way. We are all different, all unique from each other. Even identical twins have their differences, trust me.
Now, when you’re sure you know who you are, align your dreams and goals for the future with your interests and personality. Don’t trap yourself in other people’s expectations of you. Do what you want, with the condition that you’re going to achieve what you want. Never settle for less. Freedom is the potential to do more than of what is expected of you. Be yourself. People say that they do things because they are pressured of disappointing the expectations other people set for them. Don’t pressure yourself because of that, screw other people, do things because of your own standards, your own expectations of yourself.
You will realize that in setting your own standards, own expectations, own dreams, you motivate yourself into something you think is worthwhile. Compared to doing things because of what others expect of you, you are more determined to win the race that you have designed for yourself. You know what you want and that’s what you’re working hard for. It’s not because anyone else but you. You wake up each day and stay late each night because of this.
To achieve your dreams, you need to work hard, harder than ever before, and you need to set your mind to focus on these goals you have set. Avoid distractions that would kick you out of the path you chose to take, the choice you had to make, and make you feel confused and lost. I’m not saying that you should avoid everything that doesn’t push you closer to your dreams, no, it’s alright to goof around at times, just make sure you prioritize and put first whatever you think is the most important. Never ever compromise your dream for temporary happiness. It may seem like heaven for a while, but considering the long run, it might jeopardize your dreams for the future.
Then, there’s that moment when you finally reach it. All that hard work, all those hardships and problems, all of that would be worthwhile, a part of the journey to achieving your dreams. It would be a memory that would inspire you that if you could imagine and dream big big things for yourself, pray to God, and work really hard for it, you can do it. Nothing is impossible. Sky is the limit. And if you don’t reach it, if you fail on doing that particular thing, don’t be that depressed, because you did your best and that’s life. You win some, you lose some. Remember it, remember how you felt when you failed, and rise up, like the sun after it’s darkest moment, just before dawn. Rise up for there is tomorrow, rise up and learn from the past. And keep moving forward.
The trick in motivating yourself to strive for what you want is to remember. Remember what you want, why you want it, and how you’re going to get it. Focus on that thought and don’t let go because once you let go of that thought, once you forget what’s important to you, you get lost. And sometimes it’s hard getting back once you’re lost. I’ve been lost, lots of times, and I regret getting lost, forgetting what I want. But I got lost, and now I’m trying to find my way back.
We are all stories in the end, make sure you’re writing a good one for yourself.
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